Moving In With Your Partner

Moving in with your partner is an important step to make to seal your union together.

After all, no one wants to live far away from their partner, especially when they are married. Some people find it unreasonable to date someone for a long time and not move in together.

But is there a specific time period after which you should move in with your partner? Readers shared their opinions on the matter.

Shawn Davids believes that his heart will guide him. “I would move in with her when I finally realise that she’s the one who I would love to grow old next to.”

For Joyce Kamuzeri, marriage is definitely a key factor in moving in. “Only after marriage,” she said, “or you will end up moving in and staying there for three to five years. Later, you will be told this will not work out, so he must put on the ring”.

Most cultures believe that you have to marry someone before you even think of moving in with them, because commitment is taken very seriously.

Many continue to honour this belief, while others simply choose to move in with their partners the moment it feels right. But Jona Musheko believes moving in with the love of your life is not just any huge step in life. “Why would he marry you (if you move in with him)?

For what, if you gave him everything he would want to enjoy in marriage? No moving in, please. That would be on what grounds? I think you should move in when you have legal rights to do so (married by law, not in the street).”

Jason LeJay Junior said he would move in with his partner “when trust is gained and when you see a future together with that specific person”. Because no one would want to live with someone whom they cannot handle.

“I will move in with him when we are married, because it’s the right thing to do,” Anna Heita said, and for Renaldo Hansen, waiting is definitely the best option. “I really don’t have time for people who don’t pay rent to be living in my house!” Talk about personal space!

Hilda Nekundi said her man better put a ring on it before he ever considers living with her. “I will only move in with him when he says yes in front of the altar.” Exodus Tobias agreed. “After we’ve made it official at the altar.”

Gideon Ndara had this to say: “We can move in together as soon as we have a place to stay and have the blessings from both our parents. The rest is to be taken care of thereafter as we develop in all aspects of life together as one.” How sweet!

“She will move in with me. The woman should move, not the man. That’s how the Oshiwambo culture is,” Sakeus Bantwini said. But Reginald Ndokotola had her own opinion on the issue. “Move in to do what? He must put a ring on it. After marriage.”

Kawoyi Hertz agreed. I think we need to discourage this belief of people dating then after a year they are under one roof without them getting married. Genderbased violence (GBV) will remain high as this belief is on ‘high level’ or ‘extended level’.” Aha.

Tashnovah Contreras said “as long as I love the person and he loves me as much, I wouldn’t think twice about moving in with him. I believe moving in together before marriage is the best thing to do, because it gives one a chance to know the other thoroughly and not just rush into getting married to a person you are not sure of.

You can spend your entire precious life with him.”

Christa Hange believes that financial security prompts such decisions. “When I am working and I know I can satisfy my basic needs.”

Foibe Ndilokelwa ya David’s answer was simple. “After our wedding day.”

And there you have it.

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