Friendships

Most of the time we refuse to admit that the types of friends we have play a major role in our attitude, success and choices we make. Especially if you are the type of person that involves your friends in your personal and social life.

If you always feel the need to involve your friends in all your decisions, it means that you give them power over your life and they will feel the need to involve themselves even when you don’t ask for their input. So it is wise to limit the information you give out to your friends about your life, as these days not everyone has the best intentions at heart for you.

People are different and sometimes we fail to think of that, because we mistake other people for ourselves. Just because you are a good person who wishes the best for others, does not mean the other party has the same motives. Learn to study people around you, and before you think of involving them in your life, just re-evaluate them and learn the difference between real friends and those that just want to stick around for their own selfish reasons.

When it comes to friendship, something that I always say is that, if you have to force communications in a friendship, then maybe that’s a sign that that person is not supposed to remain in your life. Get attached to people that you naturally vibe with; people who always look forward to seeing and spending time with you; people who want to see you glow and grow yourself into a better and happier person; and stay away from people who find pleasure in criticising and devaluing you.

Love yourself up to a point where no one will ever think of walking all over you. When you love yourself and are not afraid to show it to others, the real people will fall in love with that type of confidence and self-valuation.

Only keep people that want to be kept by you, otherwise let them go and keep the good memories that you have but from a distance. Always remember that your peace of mind comes first before any relationships, and keeping some things to yourself is always safer unless you deeply yearn for advice to get through it.

Rauna Kahenge is a motivational speaker, radio presenter, entrepreneur and an aspiring philanthropist. Find her on Instagram @raynel_rk or Facebook Raynel Rauna Kahenge or email her at raynelraunak@gmail.com.

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