You guys will not believe how many times people have told me ‘do not date a broke guy, Micks’. Oaf. I laugh it off sometimes because in this economy, it’s difficult to find a person who is well… financially stable enough to take care of you.
I was reading something interesting about why dating a broke man was an ‘unforgivable sin’.
Guys.
I almost choked on all of the tea I’ve been drinking lately. According to this article, I should not ‘believe the sad sob stories of his childhood’, ‘believe that if I don’t support him then no one will’ and ‘equate sexual pleasure with love’.
All this information had my mind spinning. But I had to agree with some of it.
There’s always that one guy who wants to trip into your life and sweet talk you to the extent that you can’t see through the lies. He’ll attempt to give you the world he cannot afford until at some point, he gets close enough to you to either steal your money or convince you that you need to provide for everything in his life.
“Baby, I need a new XYZ”. And because you’re so in love, you fall for every single excuse he’s got to give. It can be anything, really, the explanations are so incredible. It has you in shock – the way we all were when we heard about Usher and his burning issues.
But then again, I was snapping my fingers to this article because at some point, it was right. I have standards, I should stick to it. And I do. And so should you!
You deserve the world for all the nonsense that you have been through, ladies. It’s not just about the money – please, let’s not make it about that right now. We just need that tender love and care. Is that really too much to ask?
Can’t we just get back to the days when we had gentlemen who actually opened our doors and didn’t try to grind on us in a club when we’re clearly with our friends?
Every time you find a guy who seems fairly decent, he always wants to be built up like Lego pieces.
He’s a broken soul because of what he’s been through, but ladies, we need to understand that we can’t always be the people to put them together!
He’s not a puzzle waiting to be solved. It shouldn’t be a give-give-give relationship, while gaining little to nothing out of it.
How is that fair?
But there are women who have sadly fallen for this trap.
You are there for him, help him where you can and even take care of him, only for him to leave you hanging when he glows up. Looking like Kofi Siriboe and acting like you never even existed!
Mxm.
“Have fun with men, flirt, laugh, accept invitations to go out but never, ever try to save them!” Yes, Te-Erika Patterson, preach!
Mind you, she wrote this two years ago and it still applies today. We need to stop accepting situations we do not deserve. Why should we? It’s all about your attitude. If you think you deserve something, you’re going to get it at some point. And sometimes hurdles are going to come your way, but the important thing is that you stick to your guns.
At the end of the day, we’re all striving for economic freedom. It doesn’t mean that I should be insulted for that, because waar pas dit?
