Death. We read about it in the news almost every day. Someone died after an argument during the weekend. Another person died because they were attacked by random, angry people. But it feels so distant, because it doesn’t directly affect you. But when it does, that’s something different. On Saturday morning, I read a tragic story on Twitter about a woman who was forced to deal with the love of her life dying in her arms after he was in an accident.
No lie.
And she used to post all the romantic stuff they used to do, and everyone, even strangers on the internet, were rooting for her. Because that’s what you do – you support love in a place where the world seems so dark. And then once again, it reminded me, that love can be ripped from you at any point in time so you should love the best way you can.
A good friend of mine told me this a while ago too and she was pretty frank about it: “You can’t be waiting years and years for you to say something and go for what you want. Picture the reality right now: what if he died tomorrow? Then what will you do?”
Regrets are pretty scary.
I’ve probably said this a hundred times by now, but I think I need to repeat myself. Shoot your shot. Ask the person you want out. If they say no, then oh well.
The year is coming to an end quite fast, you never really know how everything is going to change. Sometimes for the worst.
Imagine what happens when you get that phone call at one in the morning. You know that it’s nothing good, because who calls at such an ungodly hour?
Something terrible has happened, and you need to go to the hospital immediately. Or sometimes it’s a visit from a crying family member at your office door who has to speak to you in private. And you get the terrible news. The love of your life, the one who everyone thought you were going to get married to, passed on.
That fear? The doubts you probably feel right now? All of it means that it’s time for you to start taking action. Because it’s a lot to process at once – you can’t believe it’s happening. It’s the type of thing you usually see on television or hear on the news, but not once did you think it would be you this soon. You suddenly can’t eat. You can’t think. It’s too unbelievable to be real. I mean, they existed just yesterday. They were fine. You were fine. And you promised yourself that you would say something some day.
Just not… now.
And then that ‘now’ becomes ‘too late’. It’s factual – everyone is going to die at some point, but the question is when?
It’s time to stop denying the truth. If you really love someone, say it!
The more you deny it and push away your true feelings, the more you will realise that you’re only hurting yourself. It’s nothing you should keep in your heart – it’s dangerous to do stuff like that.
There are plenty ways to shoot your shot before the year is over. Become friends. Accidentally bump into your neighbourhood crush while they’re jogging along the street. Send a message to their inbox asking a random question that only they would know. I mean, no one wants to die single. Or at least, you probably don’t. Here’s to hoping that we don’t get that 01h00 call anytime soon.
