Recently, I came into contact with someone who was so experienced in the art of relationships – a master of it, so to say – and I just had to listen to his advice. He opened my eyes to a lot of things – things I almost hardly have enough time to think about.
He opened my eyes to a lot of things – things I almost hardly have enough time to think about. But I found myself sitting there and agreeing, because revelations! Anyway, here’s a snippet of life tips I’m supposed to carry around for the rest of my life:
Someone else’s relationship is not your relationship. In other words, mind your business and mind it well. You may see things that you’re not going to agree with, you may find yourself in the middle of a situation, even if it has absolutely nothing to do with you, but it’s not your place to go blabber what you saw unless it directly affects you.
You may be fighting with yourself about what is happening – but hey, that’s life. It’s important to know your place. At the end of the day, we all have our secrets, but if you are entrusted with one, even if it’s one that you weren’t meant to see, then sometimes it’s best to act like it never happened and walk away with a smile.
Don’t compromise for someone who genuinely doesn’t care about you. You have your standards, you know what you want in a man or a woman – keep them. There are people who only want you to be a placeholder in their lives and they’re not going to tell you this.
Everyone has a hidden agenda, and it’s up to you to spot it before it’s too late. Whether he/she dines you, and tells you everything you want to hear, figure out if this person strictly wants to get into your pants or sees a future with you.
It’s like getting a call at 04h00 from your crush, only for them to want your attention because they failed to get the person they really want in a club.
Don’t get played. It’s rough out there.
If you really want to keep a partner, well, good luck with that. Because the fact is that anyone can cheat at any time at the snap of their fingers. All it takes is a small connection in a club, or a party or whatever, and next thing you know, you’re in a backroom making bad decisions.
But here’s a trick: Find a way to make sure your partner is more in love with you than you are in love with them. Be unpredictable, do little things so they fall for you even more. You’ll know when you are number one, and when you are – they won’t even bother trying to get sides, because they’ll be too busy figuring you out.
It is defined as “the condition of being honoured (esteemed, respected or well regarded)”. Respect your partner – married or not. If you have respect for them, and if you’re loyal to them, then you won’t treat them badly and you would put them first, especially before you have children.
You should place them on a high pedestal, even if they don’t know it, and ensure their wellbeing at all times. It’s asking if they are OK when they get home. It’s passing by a store and seeing their favourite foods, so you decide to get them some. It’s appreciating them. It’s about not looking at a girl with a big booty walking by while your partner is next to you, well, unless they’re into that kind of thing too.
But yeah.
Respect.
