Why I Hate Valentine’s Day

There are countless reasons why I can’t stand Valentine’s Day.

People take it as a day to express their undying love for each other, when every day should be a day to express your undying love for each other. If you love someone enough to be in a relationship with them, you should love them enough to express your feelings to them on a daily basis. You should always treat your girl or guy with as much adoration and love as you do on Valentine’s Day.

It makes those who aren’t in relationships feel unloved. What can be worse than that? It’s bad enough that you’re constantly reminded of how alone you are each day as you pass couples holding hands on a Wednesday afternoon or making out at the club on a Friday night. Now, you have to deal with a whole day dedicated to mushy love songs, cheesy movies and smiling girls holding onto giant teddy bears and chocolate hearts.

It gives those who are in relationships a reason to stress out. For those in happy unions, Valentine’s Day is a headache – just another expensive day to plan. We spend serious money for the holidays, birthdays and anniversaries, and now, we’re also expected to pull out the wallet for this random day in February.

This is a day to make plans – got to get her roses, and some chocolates, and ohhh can’t forget those dinner reservations! And this is also a day to freak out when those plans don’t go exactly the way you want them to.

It empowers gender stereotypes. For men, Valentine’s Day is a day where they get to prove how much they love their girl. For women, Valentine’s Day is a day to sit back and relax as their guy breaks his back to give them the perfect night. Valentine’s Day feeds into the stereotype that men are dominant in the relationship – here’s this powerful, strong man, giving me everything I could have wanted; without him, I’d be nothing.

So totally wrong! Girls and guys should be equals when it comes to a relationship; one person shouldn’t do more than the other.

You don’t know how to act around your friends who are in a relationship when you aren’t. Do you openly roll your eyes when they show you the new diamond earrings they got?

Do you scoff when they tell you about their dinner and secretly hope they gain weight from all the chocolates? Or do you fake happiness for your friend when all you want to do is sit at home with a glass of water, a box of tissues and ‘The Notebook’?

People who propose on Valentine’s Day… How about a little originality? Girls expect to be proposed to on Valentine’s Day, which takes away from the surprise of it all. Also, it’s something that everyone else does – so why would you want one of the most important days of your life to be shared with tons of other men and women?

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