We’re Talking Body Count

It’s not easy to talk about the number of people you have had sex with (which is now known as your body count). Imagine if you’ve been a bit skeptical about your partner’s sexual activities and you’ve heard so many times that ‘honesty is key’ in a relationship.

Should you avoid the topic? Or should you tell? Would it make a difference at all? The Weekender asked readers if it is necessary to talk about body counts…

Of course you should. That is one of the most important issues to discuss. Never be ashamed to “open up”. If they really like you, it will not matter how many you have previously had because you two will create new memories!

I don’t think that it is necessary to share your body count, especially when your partner doesn’t ask. I feel like people judge you based on the number of people you have been with and you somehow lose value to them. Of course, this is not always the case however we are all only human. If your partner tells you they have slept with who, who and who… it will make you feel like they have been around. I think that my partner’s past is theirs. It does not matter, what matters is the present situation however it doesn’t hurt to say we had ‘something’ when it is a close individual just so your partner is aware. Though situations differ and there is no telling whether it’s a must or not. It depends on your relationship and situation.

Under the religious laws of yesteryears, it’ll be a virtue of the fewer, the better. Personally I don’t think it’s good to share the number. I mean, it’s not a competition, why are we keeping score? Revealing the number (no matter how in love you were) will not benefit the relationship as your partner will think you have been around or not value your intimacy as much. At the end of the day, the ‘right’ number is the one it takes for you to realise that the grass is pretty much the same green all over..

The body shows how you are, therefore you have to respect yourself.

It is definitely a big no for me, because some people have a soft heart and they will end up losing faith in you.

A relationship is built on trust which means that a partner shouldn’t have to ask about your body count because it’s the past, however trust could also mean sharing information about your past, keeping it a secret from your partner or lying about it doesn’t influence confidence. As a woman living in Namibia, personally I would like to know especially if that past affects my/our future.

Who would honestly want to hear his/her partner say he/she slept with a number of people who can fill three Iveco buses? That would mean kissing your relationship goodbye. So no, you got experience from your past and that’s all that matters. If you say the number, I bet the next question would be ‘who are they?’ Some are his/her relatives and friends, mind you. Anyway, honesty in a relationship means not hiding things after you start dating, not before you dated.

I don’t think I want to hear my partner’s body count. Why give yourself the chest pains of knowing…? If he tells you and then you find out he slept with the girl you hate or don’t like… Nah, save me from that. Let us not know for our mental health and chest pain insurance.

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