An article I read recently said something pretty important: “the older you grow, the slower heart break burns.” And this is true. It takes much longer to get over heartbreak when you’re older than it is when you’re a teen.
Because it’s like writing in a diary about love, etc., until the next fine person comes strolling your way and suddenly you’re in love again.
But the older you get, you start to realise that it’s not just about deleting a document about how happy you were. The hurt is real. The pain in your chest goes deeper than you can imagine. Even your dreams will tell you how you’re really feeling and you can’t escape from that. The point I would like to make is to help you find out how well you can handle your emotions. It’s like they say: getting in touch with your inner self or something like that. Read up on these scenarios and see what you think:
You’re stuck in traffic on a busy highway and you know you’re late for an important meeting – not that you really care. It’s one of those situations where you were like ‘ugh, fine, let me just go’. Suddenly, your phone starts ringing. It’s a private number. You’re a little nervous because private numbers almost never have anything good to say. Preparing yourself mentally for the excuse you’re about to give for being late, you pick up the phone. It’s a female voice. Wait, your partner’s sister? She’s crying. Hysterically. And she’s saying that your partner is going to the north to get married to someone else. Your reaction?
i. Nothing. ii. Something.
You are on holiday in Sossussvlei with your partner. The view is perfect, the food is amazing and the weather is well… hot. But the Italian couple you just made friends with suggests that you sit at the same table and get to know each other better. Your partner agrees for you and suddenly you’re there, watching the couple from the other side of the table. They’re talking about romantic stuff they do like throwing coins in a fountain often to seal their love, watching operas together, and touring their city by having lunch at random cafés from time to time. Next thing you know, said Italian couple giggles and leaves. You know what they’re about to do. Your partner looks at you. What would you feel?
i. Nothing. ii. Something.
It’s a hot Sunday afternoon. You and your partner decide to go out and have some kapana. The drive there is smooth. Once you’re done eating, you opt to sit down at Bix Carwash and just talk about life, your future, etc. Your partner sees their friends somewhere in the crowd and doesn’t have a problem introducing you to them. But you notice something is off. Your partner greets one person in particular with a deep look. You realise that they have a past together. Hours later, when everyone is happier than usual, you find out that it’s your partner’s ex. And by the behaviour, you notice that the person wants your partner back. To add insult to injury, they don’t even like you, and make that known to everyone. What do you think about that?
i. Nothing. ii. Something.
If you answered ‘something’ to all three, well, congratulations. You may not be an emotionless robot after all. If you answered ‘nothing’ to all three… Well. I’ll let the answers speak for themselves.
