SOME people have really dedicated themselves to making their relationship two-sided. In front of the cameras, you’re out there spending money on your bae, making them feel good and selling dreams to everyone, but behind the scenes, you’re arguing every single day.
It’s so easy to make your relationship ‘goals’, where everyone is lusting over you and how good you look, etc., but wow, the number of lies you constantly tell… It’s as easy as taking a picture of a swimming pool, talking about ‘baecations’ and trips, when in fact, you’re trying to cheer yourself up despite the cheating allegations surrounding your bae, and you’re attempting to be positive about the relationship.
The extent that people go to is incredible. You’d literally talk about your relationship as if you see rainbows every day, but the moment you go back home, you anxiously sit there wondering whether your partner is going to show up because they haven’t returned from their ‘business’ trip a whole week later.
Imagine, there are people out there who solely go into relationships because they want to show other people how happy they are, when they’re really not. The deception!
Why are you living your life for other people? If you’re not happy, then you’re not happy. Think about leaving for your sanity and stop forcing situations that are not supposed to happen.
“Oh, but I love him!” Ag, and then what? If you continuously forgive him for his cheating ways, then really, what are you doing with your life, sis?
And I also have something in particular to share with the guys.
So y’all are just out there buying your girlfriends watches, but you’re drowning in debt? Please, can we not? You want to love her and cherish her, but acting out of the range of your wage is seeking trouble.
It’s a thing, some girls are just too high maintenance for your standards, and there’s not much you can do about it. If she wants a guy who has a Mercedes (from the C-class to the AMG range only), then it’s not your problem trying to compete with that.
It doesn’t mean that you are worth any less, some people are just naturally ambitious. You really don’t have to beat yourself up about it.
Also, I don’t understand people who are simply in a relationship because people say ‘you look cute together’. What happened to the love? What happened to the romance? There was a quote in a song by Drake that really stuck with me: “We live in a generation of not being in love and not being together, but we sure make it seem like we’re together ’cause we’re scared to see each other with somebody else”. Does it ring true with you or nah?
Ah, the millennials. We’re so invested in showing everyone our lives that we end up losing ourselves in it. Current social media apps such as Snapchat (which I admit, I’m totally addicted to), Twitter and Facebook allow us to share our world with strangers, but it doesn’t mean that we should end up portraying a life that is perfect. Because no one is perfect. And relationships aren’t either. It’s really not necessary for you to pretend.
So my advice to you is really simple: Take pride in the privacy of your relationship and don’t always parade in front of everyone, because when things go sour, people are going to laugh at you. Hatred and jealousy are real. Let’s just say that it doesn’t hurt to have boundaries because there is a fine line between who you are and what you show on social media.
– @I_Am_MickeyB on Twitter; Mickey Nekomba on Facebook
