Cheating is Problematic

You caught your partner cheating. What do you do next? Throw a fit? Go get a broomstick and beat the living daylights out of them because they betrayed your trust and ruined your life for the next few weeks?

Not that you should take part in anything that involves violence, but shu. Some people have anger that goes beyond my understanding. It’s that deep. But after all that, what do you do? How do you pick up the pieces of your once-perfect relationship? Do you stay with your partner after they have begged for forgiveness?

Questions, questions, questions. So many questions.

And this has prompted me to stress once more that cheating is a terrible thing. You never know when you are ruining someone’s family. Or your own, let me not even lie.

But what is with people hiding their identities from their partners? How is it possible that you know someone for a year and then only find out they are married? Why would you pass on problems to other people like that?

So you basically blame ‘Western culture’ for bringing wedding rings into the equation, thus you don’t bother wearing them. And this helps you in your cheating ways, because when you’re in the club, you can hit on whoever you want whenever you want and no one will tell you anything. Indeed, there are levels to this cheating thing.

And then there are the so-called ‘home wreckers’. Such a sad thing, don’t you think?

I mean, what about the children? Let’s think about them, shame. They’re probably still in school, oblivious of the world around them. They’re just innocent little pupils who are told to revise math equations for a test tomorrow.

Oh my word. Imagine them staring at you with those innocent faces and saying “look Mommy/Daddy, I passed Life Science with 87%” but little do they know that their parent is indulging in after-school activities with other people’s parents.

My gosh, how sad is that?

All they wanted was to go to the movies over the weekend, but you said you were busy and spent loads of cash on your mistress instead.

Then there’s the family.

Wow, the family are not going to keep this a secret. They’re going to be talking about this for centuries to come. Whoo, and your grandmother will remind you each and every time you see her what a ‘sinner’ you are, because you broke your loving partner’s heart.

Not to mention that she was ready for the wedding. She probably even planned the date for you already, with a wonderful dress picked out somewhere in the closet. Yes, it was that real. But because of the cheating, it all went up in smoke. Shame.

But that’s just the grandmother. What you should be worried about is your mother who’s obviously going to love you forever and ever, but as much as she defends you since you’re her child, she reprimands you every chance she gets.

You want to give her gifts? She’d be like ‘are these the leftover gifts from your affair or what?’

You will never hear the end of it. Never.

But you should be worried about your sister who knows every single detail because you tell her everything. And is she going to keep her mouth shut? Maybe. But only when it benefits her.

So I say… Are you really willing to do that to yourself?

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