Resolutions

Now that the spirit of ‘Omunye’ has left all of us, it’s back to the drawing board, back to setting up our goals and back to doing what we do best – living. I’m sure many people had a fulfilling festive season, spending time with family or friends and figuring out what they want to achieve for the new year.

If you think about it, last year was kind of meh, but if you set your mindset to success, even in your relationships, the universe takes notes and it’ll land in your lap faster than you think.

Here are a few things to think about when it comes to those relationship resolutions:

Focus on your self-care. As much as you want to take care of everyone around you, you should matter first. Because how can you focus on making other people happy when you can’t make yourself happy? Enjoy more moments with yourself, even if it means going to the coffee shop and having lunch time to yourself. Or do what makes you feel good – reading a book, gardening, something to lift your spirits. The past couple of years have been emotionally, spiritually and mentally draining for a lot of people.

Start afresh. Start anew. If the same old routine hasn’t been working out for you, step out of your comfort zone and do something different. Went through a rough relationship last year because the partner you were with messed around with other people? Brush ’em off. You deserve better. Has your crush still not acknowledged you and decided to date someone else? Man, quit playing, get a new one. The supply of men and women are well… not exactly in abundance here in this sweet country of ours, but that doesn’t matter. The right one will come around (or you never know, they might be in your life already).

The One. The great debate exists: Is there such a thing as a soulmate? And if there isn’t, do you ‘build’ someone in order for them to become the perfect person for you? Honestly, who knows? And who cares? You have the right to believe whatever you want to believe. It’s not like the universe has a concrete rule when it comes to love. We’re all discovering what works the best for us, the same way we all have religious and spiritual values that we feel comfortable with.

Spread love. A worldwide movement is in the making. Down with sexual harassment, abuse, hate and violence against women. We’ve seen this with #MeToo. We’ve seen this with the Harvey Weinstein controversy. People are no longer going to keep quiet about the issues that became a norm in the past. It’s 2018 – men, women and children deserve to live in a world in which abuse and rape don’t exist. This pain needs to come to an end – too many people have been scarred by it. Let’s be a better nation, Namibia.

Express yourself. Not enough people are communicating their feelings, especially to their partners. And this leads to a whole lot of confusion. Even with apologies – for some people, it’s really difficult to say the words ‘I’m sorry’ to someone face-to-face. These conversations need to happen. Do you feel apologetic about the ex whose heart you broke? Let them know that you’re sorry, even if there’s no chance of ever getting back together again. Fix things with the people you’ve hurt. One conversation and a change in mindset can set so many things right in the world. Expressing yourself is not a weakness. It’s always a step forward.

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