Every person is faced with some form of rejection throughout their lives. This can range from job rejection, relationship rejection as well as other types of rejection.
A lot of men are faced with rejection from a possible romantic partner. How they deal with this rejection comes down to what they know about rejection and their self worth.
According to psychologytoday.com, rejection is when a person’s affections for another are spurned.
Sometimes men’s advances on women are not refused with disdain but rather with dignity and respect.
According to iceskatingresources.org, “a natural reaction to rejection is to feel diminished, unloved, worthless, insecure and insignificant. When we are rejected, our dark side may want to initiate a retaliatory strike to inflict a similar hurt “.
Knowing how to cope with rejection without reacting in a negative manner is an important quality.
We asked a few Namibian men how they dealt with being turned down by women.
Medu Haule (25) says when he faces any rejection, he respects the decision of the rejector and even though it is hard, he avoids forcing the issue. He said, “I treat it (rejection) as a minus one problem. To make it easier for one to get over fears of rejection, imagine meeting a person who is attracted to you but nothing about them moves you. You reject them and they have to accept it.
So when rejected, accept it and move on “.
The lesson he learnt from facing rejection was that he must work on strengthening his mind every day.
“Having a strong, well mentored mind will help you to accept when you cannot change things that are not under your control. ”
Twenty five year old fire and rescue officer Jonas Simon says rejection has happened to him a lot during his life.
“Well, at first I used to feel ashamed of myself when I got rejected and I would even lose my confidence for some time, for a few weeks or so, but now when I get rejected, I let it slide. ”
What he learnt from being rejected is that if you make advances on a person and they refuse to reciprocate, then you should understand that the person is not for you.
Simon has changed a lot to curb rejection. “I now consult my friends on how to limit the likelihood of being rejected. ”
“I learnt that rejection is part of life. You don’t always win; sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, so you just have to keep your head up and move on. The world does not end there. ”
When asked why they rejected men, a few women had the following to say:
Twenty year old client service consultant Shakirah Ajam says women reject some men because they don’t meet certain criteria:
They may not be well dressed, do not smell good, have an undesirable laugh or they compare them to the ideal they would want and these men fail to meet the specifications used in the comparison.
An intern at the ministry of education’s public relations office, Berny Baisako (24) says women reject men for various reasons.
“Women reject men because they may be untidy; we don’t want a man with dirty feet with never cut toenails in Adidas sandals. ”
“We also reject men when we feel they do not have the capacity to look after us in the future, ” she said.
Gospel musician Maranatha Goroh (25) had the following to add: “Some women may reject men because they don’t feel connected to them or they may have been appalled by the way the man had approached them “.
A lot of advice on how to address rejection has been offered in many magazines, journals and online articles.
Here are some ways to deal with rejection:
Do not think of what you went through. Try to forget by keeping yourself busy. Read, go out with friends or complete a project.
According to dragosroua.com, people who are rejected should see this is an opportunity to learn why this happened and alter their behaviour so that it does not happen again.
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