Flowers, chocolate or even cards with sweet words are some of the gifts couples give each other out of love. It’s a wonderful thing to have a memento from your partner, but when the relationship goes sour, is it best to return the gift or should what is given to you stay yours?
The Weekender got some readers’ opinions on the issue.
Natangwe Joseph said “I won’t ask for any gifts I have given my partner back”. Because that’s just cruel, or is it?
Hanayi Shakes Bantwini agreed. “The question is, will you feel much better with your gifts returned? I don’t think so. That empty space of insecurity will still be there. I mean what’s the use of asking for your things back after a break-up? It’s like noting on your partner’s forehead ‘break up with me and you’ll bring back my stuff”. Why buy expensive things for someone you just met? These are all the questions you need to ask beforehand.”
For Ian Fazio Junior, taking back gifts is not something he would do.
“She must have something to remember me by.”
Panduleni Namugongo said taking back her gifts were not in the cards either. “I will not ask for gifts back, in fact, he should keep them to regret what he did.”
Anthony Davey felt thinking about it was a chore. “In the first place, I gave her those gifts because she deserved it and I don’t want to have stuff that remind me of her, even if it comes from me.”
Break-ups go deep.
“Personally, I will not ask anything which I gave her as a gift. Unless she asks me to give it to her or says she will pay me back,” Hertz Kanine said.
It wasn’t even a question for Julia Tuyoleni. “I will not ask for my gifts back.”
Gideon Ndara said what’s hers is hers. “The idea of getting back what I gave out of affection in the past will only rob me of good ideas I need presently to carry on with life for a better future. So I will definitely ask nothing back, simply because my happiness breeds from the acceptance of my past to be exactly as it is and that I cannot do anything to reverse it.”
Anna Jannell Matthews had this to say about the issue: “Why would you ask for the things you gave while you two were in a relationship? Did you buy those gifts because you loved him or her or because you had a lot of money? And as they say, how someone treats you at the end of a relationship is who they really are rather than how they treated you while you guys were together.”
Fransina Ndinolucky said “I would rather let him keep the gifts because when we gave each other the gifts, there was peace”.
Pusu Ndapandula felt the same way about taking back gifts. “That would totally awkward. I would rather wave, smile, dust it off and move on.”
Loini Simon was also quite vocal about the issue at hand. “I will just be thankful for the beautiful memories and walk away. Unless it’s something really expensive which in my sane mind I wouldn’t buy anyway.”
There you have it. No take backs!
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