Here, There and Everywhere

Love is beautiful, but sadly, it has its challenges. After spending possibly years or months finding the right partner, it is indeed a blessing when a wonderful partner who cherishes you comes into your life. But what happens when they live in another city or country?

This means abandoning home completely to find a new job, living in a new area and making new friends. Is it advisable for someone in a relationship, especially one that spans a number of years, to relocate completely for their partner? The Weekender’s readers expressed their views on the issue.

Starting the conversation, Tate Leevi said it was a ridiculous idea. “And relocate back again once you two break up? Nah. We will just be visiting.”

Fernandu Chimuco disagreed, saying he would relocate. “I am an amateur on the subject, but love is forgetting about yourself and living for the other. It’s easy for someone to say they want to spend the rest of their lives with you, but doing it literally to wake up in the same bed, whether it’s in Burundi or the Bahamas, is real love to me. And yes, real love does exist. It just needs to find you.”

Madina Shatipamba, however, felt that picking up and packing up was a big step she was not ready to take. “I will not relocate because of him. I would rather visit him.”

Noah Noahab said relocating was unnecessary. “It’s not really needed if we trust each other.” In other words, starting a long-distance relationship maybe was the way to go.

“I will if there is an opportunity like a job or if I have nothing else to do where I am staying,” Israel Karita shared. “But in a case that where I am residing, I have a job, I will not relocate.” Cindy van Wyk expressed her sentiments as well: “It definitely depends where and what the availability of jobs for me would be there, but I’d strongly consider it.” After all, money is motivational!

“I don’t see it as a problem given the fact that there are real and serious reasons behind it, but again it’s something that one needs to think about really well,” Anna Matthews said. And this counters what Feliciana Amadora Do Ceu believes. “I’m not risking my life to relocate to another place, especially another country. What if the place is not suitable for me? What if things go wrong and we end up divorcing each other? I may end up on the streets of a strange country where I will have no family who will be there for me in bad times. We should rather visit each other if there is really love and trust.”

Hertz Kanine also said moving was a complete ‘no’. “There is no need for me to relocate to where my partner lives. What if you break up? Will you relocate again?” Andrew Shatimwene also did not like the idea of relocating. “No ways. Visits will do.”

Although some people would relocate, they had limits to where they would go. “Yes, I would relocate, except to poverty-stricken countries,” said Reginald Ndokotola.

Fillipe Cellor’s answer was loud and clear. “No. I have nothing to go do there. So I will only be visiting. It doesn’t even make sense. I have to stay where my work is.”

Judging by the results, most people are quite adamant about not relocating, but some are willing to make the move.

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