The other day, I saw one of the sweetest proposals you can ever imagine. A couple, who are choreographers, were dancing in front of their clients and showing off their sweet moves.
And the most beautiful thing happened: midway through the dance, the guy went down on his knees and proposed. It was so sweet to watch and it made me think about private versus public proposals.
Imagine if you aren’t even thinking of marriage and the next thing you know, your boyfriend proposes to you in the middle of a mall. Suddenly everyone has their phones out, waiting for you to react.
A solid ‘no’ wants to slip through your lips, but because of the embarrassment you will cause him, you decide to say ‘yes’ and jump all over him like the happiest girl in the world. Only for you to say a week later that you weren’t ready and he caught you off-guard.
These things have happened! But this is why it’s important for you, as a guy, to plan well. You can’t just jump into a proposal and expect her to be happy about it. Talk about marriage at some point and find out what her thoughts are on it. You don’t have to ask her directly what her idea of the perfect proposal is, but you’d know if she’s the type who prefers something private or public. Pay attention to the things she says. It’s all hidden in her words and behaviour.
Also, it’s about time that proposals become creative. Like, you can’t just propose to me in a dirty kitchen and expect me to be OK with that – unless we’re both slobs or something. That’s just sad, come on, people.
You need to think about the areas where we have memories, the first place we went on a date, a place with the spectacular view, the street where we danced all day for the fun of it… Such things.
But here are some tips about a proposal when it comes to the moment: Your partner shouldn’t know a thing. As much as you want to tell them the truth, it’s important that you keep a straight face when we go about your day for as long as possible.
If they know you well enough, they would probably sense that something is off, that you are behaving suspiciously or a little too fidgety, so remember to keep it cool.
Don’t lose the ring. Seriously, don’t. Imagine you’re casually walking around and you accidentally trip, and there goes your life savings down a manhole! That’s just tragic. Keep it in a safe place, especially somewhere your partner won’t easily find it.
Prepare the location. If you want roses, a candlelit dinner and the whole shebang, I suggest you get some friends to help you out so that you distract your bae. It’s always a wonderful thing if you have friends in on the secret – somehow it makes the event even more special. And sometimes, they want to witness the event too, so if you would like an audience, set them up with a spot to see it happen – at your own risk. Music is a bonus. Plan a slow dance to a romantic local song even. It’s all just beautiful, isn’t it?
Wishing all of you happy, non-disastrous proposals ahead!
