•Clarice TheysBrian Tuzembeho is no stranger in the world of art and entertainment at the coast. He’s especially known as a soloist and saxophone player, inspiring many young artists.
But recently he also put pen to paper to become one of a few Namibians to dare to share their thoughts with people in the form of books. His second book, ‘Diaries of a Broken Woman’, will soon be available on Amazon, on 20 December to be exact.
Tuzembeho, the only brother amongst four sisters, and with a family tree of close to 75% female as first cousins, says as far as he can remember, he was always surrounded by women.
“Since my early childhood I was fascinated by the timeline of a woman’s life. I admired the way they handle hurt, setbacks, pain and many more issues and how they could grow and even blossom in the season of winter storms …”
As a teenager, he noticed how the male species went about their business, and credits his father for playing a major role in his understanding of women.
“My dad always said that ‘every woman deserves respect, irrespective who and what she is … For no special reason other than the fact that she’s a woman’ …”
He explains that his father, as well as his late uncle Hendrik Lotsch, taught him that women are emotionally more invested and that it is important to understand them rather than to judge and label them. That’s how his quest to know women better began. He secretly studied women and learned that most women want to be able to trust their man, which is, according to him, something that men abuse.
“I noticed that women mostly end up receiving the short end of the stick and always wondered why. They get beaten up but still remain loyal. They catch their men cheating and will stir up a storm only to forgive them a little later and you’ll see them deeply in love after a week or more. I couldn’t wrap my mind around it. Women could handle levels of pain that would make a warrior crumble …”
In his quest to understand women better, Tuzembeho says he’s observed that a woman can be a lady of the night now but be a queen tomorrow. He watched women rise to power, fall from grace and recover to live a fulfilling life. But what keeps intriguing him is what makes a woman so durable and versatile.
“So I researched what we do as men, why we do it and how it impacts women. I also looked at how women are impacted by their relationships, how they survive, how women respond to what men do, also what women want from men, relationships and why they keep ending up in harm’s way.
“I learned that many women get broken in the process. Many live whilst being broken, appearing perfectly normal and could continue like this forever. After I undertaking this journey, I decided to write about it to share my learning with everyone out there. For women, the objective is that they will learn from, get the tools to recover, and even avoid the pit of despair where humanly possible.
“I hope at the same time that men will realise how their actions impact women and to learn and change their ways. This book will also give men a deeper insight into the complex world of being a woman and to appreciate them more.”
Tuzembeho says the book is meant to level the playing field and will hopefully reset scales of judgement and give every woman a chance to start over.
“‘Diary of a Broken Woman’ is meant for women to heal and become whole again as well as empower and to ultimately find true happiness and a fulfilled life.”
