Coming Clean

I cannot describe how much I hate being lied to. It’s like a slap in the face, if you ask me.

And honestly, many of us are using lies as a way of toning down the truth in our relationships. We hear so many of them: ‘It wasn’t me’ or ‘I don’t know what you’re talking about’.

Whatever happened to telling the truth?

Yes, sure, sometimes you want to protect the person you love, but it’s actually making things worse. Here’s a scenario: Lying to your boyfriend that you’re pregnant because he wants to leave you, but you want to keep him in the relationship. What kind of nonsense is that?

People don’t really understand how much they’re traumatising other people and giving themselves stress. I can’t imagine what it’s like buying some kind of material to pretend to have a baby bump, and deceiving this guy who genuinely just wants a baby, but his dreams of fatherhood are shattered once he finds out the truth.

Can you imagine how crazy that is? I’m not judging at all, but there’s a time when you are allowed to say ‘wow, you’re a terrible person’ (because I don’t like the term ‘trash’).

And then there are lies about cheating. You have to fake so many stories: ‘I’m only going for a business trip’, anakam there’s a lover waiting for you because she or he has been bugging you for attention.

No wonder innocent people who are genuinely going for business trips have a hard time convincing their partners that everything is going to be OK. And then there are texts, phone calls and so many other social media interactions that you have to delete because you don’t want to get into trouble.

All that effort could go into starting up a business, I’m just saying.

But then little white lies come into play. The ‘baby, you look good in the mornings’ or ‘the sliding door was open last night? Really? But I closed it’ knowing full well that you didn’t. I mean, these little things can be forgiven, but having lies pile up will only cause insecurities in the relationship. Sometimes we cannot help it, I do understand that, but think about it. If you keep lying to your partner, especially about small things, don’t you think they would feel some type of way?

Imagine if it was you being lied to all the time. Wouldn’t a part of you question other things? Is she really working late tonight? Am I being paranoid about the phone calls he makes when he walks out of the room? The mind is a fragile thing.

Let me tell you, karma is real. It’s that thing that will come back to haunt you because you weren’t up front and honest. So I suggest you come up with a day where you sit down with your partner and casually tell them the things that you haven’t been honest about. I promise you, the weight on your shoulders will disappear faster than you can say ‘snap’. Whether it’s that you don’t love them any more or that you want to move on to newer things, just tell the truth.

It’s 2017, it’s the year where you should stop wasting other people’s time and live your best life.

There’s nothing like sleeping in the comfort of your bed every night with absolutely no worries because you know that you didn’t lie to anyone. You’ll sleep better and it’s healthy for your skin, I promise. So come clean and get the dirt off your shoulders.

– @MickeyNekomba on Twitter;

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