Between You and Me

Today I’m going to inspire all of you reading this, because it’s January and last year was tough. I see we’re still crawling into the new year expecting the worst, but that’s the kind of mentality we need to get rid of.

If you’re not conquering mountains and thinking about yourself yet, I’m going to help you get motivated with this.

Stop comparing yourself to other people because that’s just the saddest thing you can do. We were not all brought up the same way and we were not all given the things we wanted to have. And this is why people live by competing when not everyone has started on the same level or at the same starting line.

I know you see men and women out there, married and in happy relationships and you think to yourself: “Wow, I’m so pathetic, I don’t deserve to have love,” but yes, you do! Why is it that the first thing we do is demoralise ourselves just because something is not happening right now? You don’t know what’s brewing behind closed doors in someone else’s relationship. Maybe they’re going through terrible things but put up a smile for the sake of pleasing everyone. What if they’re not even in the relationship for love, but for personal gain? Is that still your idea of ‘relationship goals’? I don’t think so.

And then there are those of you who look at exes living slightly better off and suddenly, you’ve lost the will to live. No. They had you, things didn’t work out and they lost you. That’s just the way it is, sometimes. But just because they’re happy, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, and I am here to reassure you of that.

Stumbling blocks are always put in our path to happiness and it’s not because we ‘deserve’ it, but getting up proves how strong we really are. You are going to get better, you’re going to slay even harder than before, and that ex of yours is going to come crawling back because they realised how wrong they were. Whether you choose to accept them or not is your choice, but it shows that you are not depending on them to be happy. You can find your own happiness too. Facts only.

The thing many of us do is compare ourselves to celebrities as well. “Kim Kardashian-West has everything! Why am I not her?” or “I should have been born as Floyd Mayweather. He has money, power, women, status, everything.” Sweetheart, you know this is not America, right? We live in the Land of the Brave and miraculously having millions of dollars in your account is not going to happen, as much as we want it to.

Best thing to do? Be yourself. Don’t be that person who dresses in expensive clothes and what-not for the sake of impressing other people – do it for yourself. You’re worth it. A relationship with yourself is what you need in your life, best believe. And once you realise that, once your confidence skyrockets, you’ll realise that your perfect guy/girl will come strolling into your life when you least expect it. Confidence is sexy.

With that said, all we should do is strive to be happy because that’s what we want at the end of the day, right?

Comparison spawns hatred, jealousy and all those other nasty emotions you don’t need in your life. Spare yourself the drama and you’ll be good to go.

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