Worst Behaviour

This weekend was a serious turn up for me.

There were a number of events I had to attend and of course, it was a wonderful experience meeting up with people and networking. I was with a dear who dances like Ciara, the beaut. The problem is, a woman like her attracts the wrong attention.

This is why a number of events occurred. On one occasion, we were minding our own business, dancing and all, and suddenly, an old man came up behind her and expected her to grind on him. Guys. This man literally had the name of his school on his shirt and I couldn’t help but think how disturbing it was.

She told him “listen here, you are making me feel very uncomfortable. Could you please stop?” But did he listen? No.

Instead, he sat close by, attempted to dance in her circle and tried any and everything to invade her space! Why, though? Does a woman’s ‘no’ not mean ‘no’ any more?

Someone said it apparently means that a guy should ‘try harder’, possibly because he doesn’t like feeling rejected in front of his friends. This is why I said someone’s going to get petty and tell you how small your man junk is in public. Such things.

And then his friend would lick his lips and tell her about all the things he can do, but were we having it? Psh. So we repeated the same word over again with a straight face: “No”. Of course he felt guilty afterwards and said he was ‘joking’ and proceeded to say that she was never really his type in the first place, all while pointing at another woman’s booty and claiming she was his initial target. I promise you, we cringed that day.

But that wasn’t it. No. It was late at night and my friend and I were enjoying ourselves, lemonade and Red Bull in hand until random guy offered to buy us drinks. But random guy got so random that he introduced us to another random guy, who hardly had the strength to say hi to us. I’m there thinking… why are you even in our space and how did we get into this situation?

Then he asked for a dance, which we declined because we were trying to chill with the people we came with. That is the rule: Keep close and communicate, always. More declining, more ‘no, thank yous’ and the lot was the order of the day. But he seemed so fixated on my dear friend, following us to a point where he literally climbed into our car and pointed to me, saying how bad a person I am, while looking at my friend saying that she attracts bad people, which, in this case, is me.

Mind you, this guy was out of his mind, mumbling about how he wanted our attention. Again, I wondered why he was here, until our protector dragged him out of the car saying that he should leave us alone and get moving before he gets his butt kicked.

It’s so sad how women are constantly bothered and attacked by men, drunk or not, and how we always have to have a man in our company otherwise it will be a problem.

I guess this is the environment we have to deal with now, but it doesn’t mean we should tolerate it! If you’re such a jerk when you’re drunk, what about when you’re sober? Because they say that suppressed feelings and emotions come out when you’ve had a couple of drinks and all hell breaks loose.

Honestly, what is a girl to do?

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