Should Password Stay Private?

Every couple has boundaries when it comes to technology. No using phones during dinner, no Snapchat while hanging out and other rules like these are examples of what couples do to keep their attention off social media and focus on each other. But when it comes to passwords and how much your partner should know, it gets quite tricky.

The Weekender spoke to readers to get an idea of whether their partners should stay in their lanes or share absolutely everything, which includes the flirty text messages.

Ndapewa Salom said that it’s not a big deal to have her partner knowing what’s on her phone. ‘Yes, I will allow them to have access to my phone as I have no hidden agenda. To gain their trust, I would go the extra mile and show him that I am being faithful. My phone is his too.’

This is not surprising, after all, trust is one of the most important foundations in a relationship. If trust is broken and your partner suspects that there’s something dodgy going on your phone and you’re keeping to yourself, there will be doubts. Henok Pangeiko agrees.

‘Yes, I will let them know [what’s on my phone] as I have nothing to hide. But if there are confidential things in a certain folder in the phone, I will not let them know the password for that.’

For Joel Kalipi, it’s better if he stays with his phone and his partner stays with hers. ‘What’s on my phone is my business and vice versa.’ And Kalvin Muharukua agrees that looking into his partner’s phone is not a must in his relationship. ‘If we both trust each other, I don’t think we need to do that.’

Many people believe privacy is a big deal, even in a relationship. There are certain things that one can share and cannot. But people have various opinions on it because sometimes sharing means caring.

‘The two of us are brought together as an individual means that we are free to use any phone,’ Gideon Ndara said. ‘She has all the freedom in the world to use my phone knowing perfectly well that there are no skeletons in there to hide. We believe in being faithful, which is the key to our great inner peace, joy, happiness and most of all our sweetness in life as soul mates.’ However, it’s not just about phones, but technology in general.

Because the world is constantly developing and is now in a digital age where tech rules, this has taken a toll with some relationships as some are claiming to ignore text messages (which has now become a make or break deal) and well, one simply cannot ‘blue tick’ people any longer. Various romantic exchanges over the internet have also made it possible for couples in relationships to have evidence of cheaters, liars and deceivers, which has eventually lead to break ups and divorces.

Julia Tuyoleni said ‘yes, I will allow them (to have access to my phone and passwords). There is no place for secrets in a relationship. That’s another way to gain trust in a relationship. I recommend that all partners should do it. After all, a relationship with secrets will never have a happy ending.’

As much as it is important for couples to be open with each other, it solely depends on the preference of the people in the relationship. If having access to passwords and other personal details about your partner is important to you, then you should discuss it and figure out what you need to have and what you don’t. If it’s not such a big issue for you, then go ahead and enjoy the relationship.

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