As we, the youth, embark on the journey of life, some of us may find ourselves contemplating the sacred institution of marriage.
The prospect of sharing our lives with someone special is undoubtedly exciting, yet it comes with its share of challenges. In a world where divorce rates are of concern, it becomes imperative for us, the youth, to approach marriage with thoughtfulness and consideration.
Research consistently underscores the significance of communication in marital success.
Studies by Hawkins and Fackrell (2010) highlight that effective communication is a cornerstone for building a strong foundation. Open and honest dialogue fosters understanding, helping couples navigate through differences and challenges that inevitably arise.
Therefore, my first piece of advice is to cultivate a communication style that prioritises empathy and active listening.
Furthermore, it’s crucial to acknowledge that marriage is a journey of growth, both individually and as a couple.
John Gottman, a renowned psychologist, emphasises the importance of embracing change and adapting to each other’s evolving needs (Gottman, 2015).
Expect that both partners will transform over time, and the key lies in supporting and celebrating these transformations together.
Financial literacy is another critical aspect often underestimated in marital bliss. A study by Dew and Dakin (2011) reveals that financial issues are a leading cause of marital discord.
As you embark on this journey, invest time in understanding each other’s financial values, setting shared goals, and developing a solid financial plan.
In addition to these insights, it’s essential to approach marriage with realistic expectations. Howard Markman, a renowned marriage expert, suggests that unmet expectations could lead to dissatisfaction (Markman et al., 2010). While it’s natural to have dreams and hopes, it’s equally important to communicate and align these expectations with your partner, fostering a shared vision for your life together.
Marriage is not a fairy tale, but a joint effort to build a resilient and fulfilling life together.
As we navigate the complexities of this sacred bond, let us approach it with dedication, understanding, and the willingness to learn and grow together.
Wishing you all the best on this incredible journey of love and companionship.
Harmony Muyenga
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