Sex is more than just an act of pleasure, it’s trusting another being with your purest element – your body – and exposing your heart to a variety of emotions.
Losing one’s virginity is considered as a milestone along one’s transition to adulthood. It’s such a glorious moment for almost every teen. You finally feel like a woman, and you can’t wait to tell all your friends all about it.
The sky is blue, you’re walking on the clouds, floating in the air, and you can see unicorns everywhere. Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but realistically there’s more to it than just sex.
Losing your virginity is entering a new chapter in your life, awakening a part of you that you never knew existed.
No non-virgin will probably tell you this, but the majority regret trusting the wrong person with their V-card and others wish they had waited because of the emotional attachment that came along with it.
You begin to feel connected to your sex partner; you become emotionally vulnerable. Addiction is just the right term to describe the attachment you develop towards your partner.
Losing him may feel like a sudden death. You will find yourself in disbelief, feeling like a new person, and it may scare you a bit.
Let that not frighten you; it is merely reality settling in. You become reliant on him and want to be assured constantly that you are loved. As if the torture isn’t enough, you get the consistent ‘love-seeking’ brain impulses. Practically, you are like a baby.
Babies form a strong bond with the mother who gave it life. Your sex partner introduced you to the world of adulthood. Like a baby, you need proper handling as your heart is delicate. If you are among the unfortunate where the one you trusted with your precious jewel turned out to be a stranger, it is not your fault.
There’s nothing wrong with your body, he is just not the one and that’s his loss.
If you are still a virgin, you are a unicorn, baby. In this generation we live in, unicorns are rare to find. You are wanted. No, it’s not a race, and trust me when I tell you this, those who raced wish they never did. It’s your duty to protect your heart. Losing your V-card is no guarantee of maturity.
Helena Ligola is a 19-year-old student studying finance management at the International University of Management at Ongwediva.
Email her at helenaligola17@gmail.com or find
her on Instagram @Helena_ligola.
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