By definition, friendship is a relationship based on mutual affection between people. It is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than it is an association.
According to Psychology Today, friendship provides advice and support. Close friendships enhance moods and functioning as well as emotional and physical health. Friendships have to be cultivated and nurtured to be meaningful over years.
I however feel the word friendship is being ‘thrown around’. We tend to call everyone our friends without setting a standard and realising that not everyone needs or get access to you.
Friendship means trust. I read a quote that trust is more important than love as you would not really trust someone you don’t love. When it comes to my friends, specifically Ntombi and Revival, I can say I trust them. We have known each other since the first grade and recently got very close.
Our Journey as friends has been hectic. Revival for instance wasn’t in my and Ntombi’s circle so there was already a major difference in personality.
Ntombi Ayeshe Elago
Ntombi Elago is a beautiful and sweet young woman. We met in 2008, in first grade, in Mrs Nienhaus’ class. I do not vividly remember our interactions back then but I know from that day we have been inseparable. I remember she would bring toast bread that she did not like to school and gave it to me.
There was also a rule on the playgrounds about not bringing yoghurt to school as we would get bad luck.
Looking back, it was such a dumb thing but guess who brought yoghurt to school regularly, Ayeshe and I. And what would happen is that the yoghurt would spill on our uniform during break. I guess that was the bad luck.
There were a few obstacles in our friendship like any other. We had a ‘pause’ for about two years yet through effective communication we fixed it. Over the years our friendship has grown so much and I am grateful to have her as a friend. She’s extremely funny, a clown I would like to call her. Ntombi is caring, understanding and so supportive.
Revival SL
Another special person in my life is Revival SL. A ‘little’ human being with a big heart. We also met in 2008 but we got fully acquainted in the Grade 4. We then got super close in Grade 6 and became best friends in Grade 7.
My experience with SL has been quite a ride. Coming from different friend groups, I never thought we would click. Our friendship reignited in 2017 and we became best friends again. The sweetest thing she did was bringing me a diary we made together in Grade 6 which I still have.
Revival is goofy and also very supportive, a whole hype woman. She doesn’t take nonsense though and she and I had the most arguments and tears. Right now we are better than ever and we are still best friends.
Our Dynamic
The three of us are very different. It’s interesting how we all get along so well. Revival is the shortest of the three yet she is the feistiest. Ntombi is the clown, she is so funny and it’s not because she tells jokes or anything but it’s her laugh for me. I am the mother of the group.
I am really protective of my friends and I feel I am the most accountable even though we collectively make ‘bad’ decisions.
I believe we may have an obsession with each other. Ever since we started living in the same unit at a student accommodation, we would do almost, well in fact everything together. Now that we are separated, unfortunately, we video call each other every single day. I am surprised we aren’t tired of each other yet.
One of the few things I love about our friendship is how much we support one another in everything we do.
Final words
The three of us have come a long way. From break ups, fights and misunderstandings and tears to so many laughs and adventures. Ntombi and Revival have truly been a blessing in my life and I am thankful that God placed us in each other’s lives. I am looking forward to many more memories and adventures with them.
I love you girls.
-Afterbreak Magazine
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