Choosing Celibacy

Whether you believe in saving yourself for marriage or ‘test driving’ a partner before you tie the knot, sex is a big part of any adult relationship.

Ultimately, to abstain from or to indulge in the fruits of the flesh is a very personal decision, but it is one that can cause serious tension in your relationship if your partner isn’t on the same page.

This week, we took to Facebook and Twitter to find out if our readers could date someone who is celibate and how important sex is in their relationships…


I honestly can’t. I can’t date someone who’s celibate due to the fact that, to me, sex is very important in a relationship. It’s like a daily need to me. It makes me happy, strong and makes a relationship more enjoyable. With a celibate person I can’t have that.

No, man! Then after marriage it’s going to be all awkward and stuff because he has no experience, or worse – he’s sterile. No, I can’t afford having my time and effort wasted. Those people belong in the stone age.

Then it’s just the same as being friends.

I can’t. Sex is very important to me and it’s enjoyable.

I would. And did. Intimacy is important, and sex certainly is an expression thereof. That said, passing on a relationship just because sex is off the menu strikes me as shortsighted. Took a lot of commitment the last time I did it.

I would, under the condition that in the future there would be some sort of intimacy including sex. I am not saying a month or two down the line, but in a lasting and the rather more rewarding future. Intimacy, including sex, is a very important part of building and maintaining a meaningful relationship.

And yes, the relationship can last and be meaningful excluding sex but when it is included, you create a whole new kind of meaningfulness that transcends telepathic connections and merges into a more physical and personal realm.

Yes, celibacy on religious grounds means abstinence till marriage, and this is good. That way you can really get to know him/her before you jump into bed, and avoid the risk of making the father/mother of your child someone who is not what you want for your child.

Also, sexual relationships attach you to the other person and break-ups hurt more… Be wise, stop this one-night-stand mentality and build relationships that will last.

Sex is as important in a relationship as Dr Dre was in Eminem’s career. And as important as Dr Sam was in Namibia’s liberation…

I believe intimacy does not necessarily have to include sex. The importance of intimacy in a relationship is about a 2.4 out of 10.

Sex doesn’t make a relationship.

A relationship based on sex is nothing but lust. And on that note, sex is for married people, period. I prefer God’s way.

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