Breaking Free From The Friend Zone

Have you ever found yourself falling for someone completely gorgeous, just to find out that your crush thinks of you as a friend, or worse, a brother?

Those are the last words any guy would want to hear from the love of his life; it could possibly be the most devastating news in his life, OK, maybe it’s not that bad, but no one ever wants to find themselves in the friend zone, because once you’re there, it’s really hard to leave.

Although the friend zone might not be a physical place, it has the ability to make a man feel boxed in and isolated from love. Well, the pure hatred of the friend zone is causing a lot of guys to fight back and break free.

Listening to Usher’s ‘Lovers and Friends’, the hope arises that one day you could break through the barrier built by women who can’t seem to see you in romantic light.

Young Windhoek resident and student Kevan van Kent thinks that if a guy finds himself sitting in limbo, it might be due to his own doing. “Sometimes it’s also the guys own fault if he gets friend zoned and you should just try to walk away as quickly as possible, ” Kevan said.

Kevan also mentioned that friend zones aren’t the end of the world but it could be tricky to get out of that sticky situation.

“It’s not impossible to get out of the friend zone, however it is complicated and the method would differ from woman to woman, ” he said.

“It’s not good at all. Once you are there, you can never be a boyfriend. You’ll just get disappointment and end up getting hurt. ”

This is what another young man thinks about that dreaded black hole called friendship. Artur Hungulo, having said this, has however found himself on the dishing out end of the camaraderie card.

“I’ve friend zoned a girl because I didn’t want to be with her and didn’t have a way to tell her. I was bit cowardly, ” he said.

Manuel Lemus, a student at Namibia University of Science and Technology (NUST), said that he was once a victim of this practice.

“At some point I was friend zoned. I ended up enjoying the friend zone until I got some disappointments, ” he said, but didn’t want to elaborate on the subject. Manuel also feels that some men later become too attached and dependent on companionship, and that also causes a string of complications.

Spreading some of his knowledge on the ladies, Anthony Keister was happy to chat about the friend zone. Firstly, he thinks man is to blame if he lands himself in this predicament, and that chatting too much is the root of the problem.

“Do you want to be her girlfriend or what? ” His question was directed to men who get too trigger happy with sending texts and chat all night.

His solution to getting out of this dilemma is to just be cold. “Just tell her we can’t be friends any more, ” Anthony said. “You should just Wi Fi the game from afar, ” he added. (To ‘Wi Fi the game from afar’ means to just scout the ladies, but rarely establish any serious connection.)

Anthony also added that it is very rare for a guy not to want any of his girl friends, but it is better to stay away.

“Sometimes you have to friend zone girls in your class if you don’t want to mess things up.

Jy poep in die wind (fart in the wind) and not in an enclosed situation. ” Anthony’s use of metaphors means that one shouldn’t disrupt situations that could have been left alone and should just go with the flow.

“If you want to get out the friend zone, you should just break ties, ” he said. Coming back to his issue of sending too many texts, he outlined his theory. “If you send her more than three texts after just having met her, you are already one of her girl friends.

You should play quickly to avoid the friend zone. Be upfront. Too many texts always mess things up. No need for good night texts every single night, ” Anthony explained.

Good luck on escaping the quicksand of the friend zone.

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