Contented Relationships

I WRITE with deep sorrow about all women who have been abused by those who should have protected them.

I believe that one day these barbaric acts shall get a solution and should be condemned by all peace loving Namibians. It is sad that my generation has become a destructive generation compared to our forefathers who, for example, went to work in the mines in Johannesburg, South Africa, leaving their wives at home in Namibia for months but there was still peace in their relationships.
My generation should understand simple realities in relationships. Men should know that relationships are temporary and they seldom become permanent, so give the little that you have, do not force yourself into debtand avoid frustrating yourself when it is over. We should always be able to ask ourselves “what if the relationship breaks apart?”.
You should be honest in relationships by knowing whether at what stage it is at every moment – whether you are just dating or getting ready for marriage. This determines how much you invest in it, what to spend in that relationship and avoid being hurt, and, at the end, demand back, falsely, what you did not give.
Likewise, women today have become so materialistic that they would expect and demand certain things for which a man should struggle to get for them in order to cement a relationship. Some of the demands are not so relevant  – even failing to buy her a favourite drink for that evening or not having taxi money for that day would lead to arguments and labels that the boyfriend is a useless man.
I think it is time we arecontent with what we have and sure ofyour relationship before marriage or before accepting gifts that might turn costly.
Maxmillian
Rundu

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