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The Namibian
Mon 12 Aug 2013
SMS Of The Day * MINISTRY of Gender and Child Welfare, TEARS are rolling down as I write this SMS. The killing of women in Namibia is now like reciting a poem. Are we really getting the protection we deserve while women not being treated as part of this c Food For Thought * SO the Zimbabwe elections were free and peaceful and not free and fair? Bouquets And Brickbats * NURSES at Katutura Hospital must stop wearing those big plastic sandals at work because they are not the official working shoes. We want to see you looking smart and beautiful with your full uniform. SMS Of The Day * THIS nation is in dire need of a massive conference on housing. When we experienced a crisis in the education sector a crisis-control brain-storming conference was organised which resulted in the best deal ever for the Namibian child, nam Food For Thought * BOURGEOISIE has become a daily occupation if not the order of the day of the upper-echelons, President Hifikepunye Pohamba we urge you to revisit this unpatriotic geocentricism among your staff and the well-connected, for everybody to r Bouquets And Brickbats * COMMISSIONER of Prisons, can you please explain the strategies you use to appoint officers to certain positions? It is my observation that you are being fed with wrong information then you just promote individuals without making p SMS Of The Day * I THINK Paulus ‘The Rock’ Ambunda lost his belt because of this promoter and trainer. How can a world champion still be training at the Katutura Youth Complex where there is not enough equipment. I think they must follow the example of Ha Food For Thought * NAMIBIA Dairies are unable to match low prices of imported milk and this ultimately means the consumer will have to pay more for local milk. Look at the prices of the local chicken. All these profits are going in the pockets of a few in Bouquets And Brickbats * I AM pleased to hear that Cabinet has responded positively to the proposal of Namibia Dairies to support the industry. The restrictions which support the industry by reducing competition to ensure the survival of the industry is a SMS Of The Day * CEO’s golden handshakes. Somewhere on our statute books there must be a provision that if a board of directors suspends/dismisses a CEO without due regard to legal provision (substantive/procedural law) such board must carry the costs for Food For Thought * JACKY Asheeke was so right with her last column- why are the fathers of the dead children not being prosecuted? (Reference to the children who died in shack fires last week) Our justice system still protects men over women. In this cont Bouquets And Brickbats * ALEXACTUS Kaure, your column in Friday’s newspaper opened my eyes. One hardly finds impartial case study analysers in Namibia. Let’s not destroy the Polytechnic’s strong foundation (Tjivikua) as yet. At least wait until the transf
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Thoughts On Love
Love
I’ve been thinking about this whole love thing... About how love is portrayed as this overwhelming uncontrollable desire to be with someone. It is typically expressed by phrases like “I will do anything for you”, “I can’t live my life without you”, or my personal favourite “I love you more than anything.”
On the other hand, if you’re a fan of romantic movies, they always have that one super-romantic scene where the couple rides off into the sunset and they live happily ever after. If you’re anything like me, you can’t help but feel warm, fuzzy and gooey inside, followed by a weird sense of “awww, that is so sweet!”. It’s odd though because this is what begins to shape our view on love. Love becomes this dreamy, blissful state of happily ever after and then we wake up to the Namibian reality of passion killings, gender based violence, abuse, high divorce rates, ignorant men and gold digging women. And there goes our love fantasy.
As human beings, we often dream of real love. Even thugs have a soft spot, but the way we search for or define love is so twisted. We see this repeated theme of basing relationships on infatuations and fantasies such as looks, possessions, social status and education. Although these are vital qualities to have in a partner, they are often useless in maintaining love because a Master’s degree will not protect you from a broken heart or loneliness. Money or a pretty face will not guarantee happiness. Six months down the line we discover that this prince/princess with all those degrees, money, charm and cuteness is not as caring or understanding as we had dreamt. In fact, they are irritating! So we call it quits. The question then becomes: How does one go about finding love that will last? Is it even possible for a relationship to last more than six months in this day and age where it’s a fashion trend to count our exes?
There is an old saying that goes “beauty is skin deep”, meaning to truly love someone, look beyond the Brazilians, swag, cute smile, designer jeans and see what is going on beneath. By that I don’t mean beneath the clothes, I mean, look at their morals, character, principles or vision, because these things are what keep people together.
Even though pop culture tells us that love is an emotion, the reality is that when following a feeling without thinking or putting principles in place, we put our lives at risk. God gave us brains to think, plan, and control impulses so that we don’t make dumb decisions like jumping into relationships and ending up spending two years recovering from a broken heart.
Love needs to be practical. It is not blind but we blind ourselves from the truth, out of desperation, peer pressure, or because truth hurts. Either way, God has a given us all the resources to experience real love, so maybe in our quest for love it’s wise to consider taking a few lessons from the author of love... God.
Tuli Kaute is a motivational speaker and a Media student.
As human beings, we often dream of real love. Even thugs have a soft spot, but the way we search for or define love is so twisted. We see this repeated theme of basing relationships on infatuations and fantasies such as looks, possessions, social status and education. Although these are vital qualities to have in a partner, they are often useless in maintaining love because a Master’s degree will not protect you from a broken heart or loneliness. Money or a pretty face will not guarantee happiness. Six months down the line we discover that this prince/princess with all those degrees, money, charm and cuteness is not as caring or understanding as we had dreamt. In fact, they are irritating! So we call it quits. The question then becomes: How does one go about finding love that will last? Is it even possible for a relationship to last more than six months in this day and age where it’s a fashion trend to count our exes?
There is an old saying that goes “beauty is skin deep”, meaning to truly love someone, look beyond the Brazilians, swag, cute smile, designer jeans and see what is going on beneath. By that I don’t mean beneath the clothes, I mean, look at their morals, character, principles or vision, because these things are what keep people together.
Even though pop culture tells us that love is an emotion, the reality is that when following a feeling without thinking or putting principles in place, we put our lives at risk. God gave us brains to think, plan, and control impulses so that we don’t make dumb decisions like jumping into relationships and ending up spending two years recovering from a broken heart.
Love needs to be practical. It is not blind but we blind ourselves from the truth, out of desperation, peer pressure, or because truth hurts. Either way, God has a given us all the resources to experience real love, so maybe in our quest for love it’s wise to consider taking a few lessons from the author of love... God.
Tuli Kaute is a motivational speaker and a Media student.
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